Have you been navigating some lower level emotions? Does the world feel heavy? Honestly, I've been feeling less motivated and less passionate which makes me feel pretty guilty. I'm sharing some of the things I do to shift mental and emotional states.
*Human moment: I said sociologically, but I meant societally. :)
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Hello, and welcome to the Free Your Heart podcast. I'm your host and heart healer, Ashley Mondor. And, I am here to serve as your guide while bringing you nourishing conversations, wisdom, and channelled messages that support your healing journey to wholeness and unconditional love. It's my hope that this podcast and the stories shared with you inspire you, expand you and align you to the profound understanding of not only who you are, but for what's possible for you as you heal and open your heart.
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I wanted to start this off by saying, as you know, I am not a doctor, a therapist, a counselor of any kind. I simply wanted to share my experiences and the things that I've researched to help me move through some things. Background the past few days, maybe the past week- and- a-half or more, I feel like the passion has been sucked out of my heart.
I feel like it's, I just have a really heavy heart. I don't know if it's the state of the world and the things that are happening, or I'm just moving through this cycle because you know, most of our life is a series of death and rebirth cycles. I usually know that when something like this is happening, something new is going to be reborn or birthed through me.
One of the greatest gifts I've given myself is my awareness to how I feel in my body and then not attaching any judgment or negative narrative around how I'm feeling. I wanted to share that with you because I know I'm not alone. I'm not the only one who goes through these things where I feel like walking through a void or I feel like heavy hearted, and I want it to be transparent and vulnerable with you because a lot of people would actually be shocked in me sharing this. They think that I'm happy and positive all the time and that everything is sunshine, and rainbows, and flowers, and all of those beautiful things.
But part of being a human is navigating pain and uncertainty. And, you know, the things that your brain is telling you and how your body feels. I just want it to be. Because I think the more that I share my shadows and the more that I bring you on this journey with me, the more permission it is for you to drop into your body and to allow yourself to feel what you're going through without a narrative, without any story that's telling you how you should feel or that there's something wrong with you.
I wanted to share the heaviness in my heart and how I typically know that I feel this. I am not like bounding out of bed and I'm not like, "Oh my God, I'm so excited to be alive today!" Because usually that's my state. Right? I have things in place where I stack gratitude every morning. And, I tell myself all of the beautiful things that I want to hear from other people, but it starts with me first.
I have these practices, and I'm human. Sure. I'm certified as a master NLP practitioner and master life and mindset coach, and all these things, but I'm a human, and part of our humanity is a gift. As a gift in navigating the heaviness that we feel, especially as we're going through these collective changes.
I wanted to share some of the things that helped me. They could help you, or if anything, it's the connection that we're in this together, no matter what. The first thing is one of the most profound channelers I've ever come across and you may have heard of him, but he is one of my favorites. His name is Bashar.
Bashar is an interdimensional being who has channeled through Darryl Anka and been channeling think for like 38 or 40 years on the planet where they bring in waves of new information that explained in detail how our universe works and how each person can co-create their experience on the planet and to create their reality.
And a lot of. The information is just, it feels like clear waves of truth. When you hear them. Sometimes, I have to actually re-listen because my brain can't consciously process what he's sharing, but I just love it so much. One of the things that he taught on, which was really powerful is we have to shift our definitions societally, or we have these definitions of things and we decide that their truth.
Someone asked him about depression and I thought it was a fascinating response. You can take this or leave it always take what resonates with you and leave the rest. But I wanted to bring this lens or this perspective around depression, because it was really powerful. He shared depression and shifting our definition and reframing it.
Depression is simply the negative perspective of compression, which is a natural state. When, where, you know, you can't find the answers you seek outside, you go with. You collapsed within and to a state where you investigate and examine yourself and come out, redefining yourself as a new person. And he shares, it's a marriage state of compression, where you find out what beliefs don't serve you and emerging as a truly new person.
Then you won't experience that sensation as depression, which is the negative side of thinking that something must be wrong with you because you feel some type of way. But, actually it's a natural thing to do is to go inside and to find the answers that you're seeking. The idea of compression and giving yourself that allowance of going within so that you can see what things aren't working for you, what thoughts, what ways of behaving the way you're in the world, your, your stories, your lens, your perspective, and like allowing yourself to just sit with that without telling yourself a story that something is totally wrong with you.
I say this again, I'm not a doctor. If you have depression, I invite you to please seek out a therapist or someone who can walk with you through that. But the idea of it is kind of like we're lightening the energy around depression when we shift into compression and the ability to go within.
Actually that's a really healthy thing for you to do is to go into your internal world and sit with yourself and see what comes up and what are the thoughts and what are the beliefs in what's heavy on your heart. What's the stories that you have around these things. That was a really illuminating thing for me outside of that, I wanted to share.
You know, today, actually I woke up and I just, I just sat in bed and I'm like, am I overwhelmed with my life? Do I feel like things aren't happening the way I want them to? Why am I not excited about today being Monday? I feel a sense of guilt and shame around that because I live a life of freedom. I live a life where I don't have an alarm clock that wakes me up.
I wake up when I want to, I work out whenever I want to, I eat what I want to. I work with the most beautiful people on the planet and I still had these thoughts. The thing about shame and guilt is while I can feel that, I can also shift it when I feel like I'm in my power.
Well, sometimes it takes a little bit for me to shift out of that state. Some of the things that I wanted to share with you that I thought were really helpful based on my research and looking at your neurology and your subconscious mind is there are things that you can do that support you, especially with neurotransmitters.
What are they? Oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. They're your happy chemicals, your motivation chemicals. They're the things that I think really grounds you in reality, so that you can experience more happiness, more bliss, more joy, more compassion.
These are the things that you can do when you're feeling lower-level energetic states. First, let's talk about oxytocin. That's the love or bonding hormone, and you can get them through things like hugs, kisses, cuddles, massages, sex, and orgasms. You can also get them through listening to music, yoga, or meditation, sharing a meal with someone you love, spending time with your friends, doing something nice for someone, or helping someone else out which helps boost your compassion and your empathy.
That energy is making the world a better place. You can also pet your dogs. I learned, which is really fun. Thank God for dogs and unconditional love. Outside of oxytocin, we have dopamine, and this is how you experience pleasure neurologically.
I've learned that it's crucial for learning and memory movement and our outlook on life. It's also one of the driving forces behind our motivation. When we look at, you know, ways we can get more dopamine in our life, I've learned that you can consume protein, rich foods, which for me are legumes, but for others, it's eggs and dairy.
There are certain supplements. You can take a magnesium and chocolate, which is so exciting! Quality sleep, listening to music, meditation. Serotonin is associated with happiness, focus, and your sense of calm. I learned that 90% of serotonin production actually takes place in your gut, through your intestinal cells.
How wild is that? That's so cool. And, it means how nutrient rich is your diet? How far out of whack is our society anyway with food... But how nutrient rich? Your body uses the amino acid tryptophan to create serotonin. You can get those things through eggs, cheese, pineapple salmon, and for me, it's nuts and seeds, oats, stuff like that.
You can also boost serotonin through aerobic exercise. They say that it takes like 30 days for five days a week, which I just want to put this out here when you have a heavy heart, and you're feeling darker, and you don't feel like yourself. It can be really hard to motivate yourself to be like, "I'm going to exercise for 30 minutes today and I'm going to do it every freaking day this week!"
I can't do that all the time. The thing I do is play mental games with myself where I'm going to set a timer for five minutes and I'm going to do an exercise. I'm going to do jumping jacks. Something for five minutes, you can do anything for five minutes. Right? So for me, what happens is after that five minutes, typically I have more energy.
I'm feeling better. I'm feeling more levity. When I feel that I keep going, I'll go for 10 minutes, 20 minutes, or 30 minutes. But if I'm not feeling it after five minutes, I'm proud that I even took the time just to move my body. I feel better about myself. Then, usually what happens is I'll take myself for a walk later in the day because I have more motivation. Other ways that you can boost serotonin is through laughter! Or, one of my most favorite ways is spending more time in nature.
The thing about nature. And I believe this, especially with hiking and seeing greenery and all those magical things is nature doesn't take energy away from us. It's this balanced place where you can be all of you so fully you so free. If you allow yourself to be held by mother nature, by Gaia. When you allow yourself the space to go be in the green and to touch the trees, to smell the oxygen, to see the flowers and the birds and the little critters.
You're just there. There's no story. There's no weight. Yes, there's the weight of the world, but you don't have to carry it there for that moment. Another thing that helps me when I'm processing a lot of really heavy things in my life. I will go on walks because when you are moving forward and you're walking, and your body is moving... I learned this from Dr. Andrew Huberman.
Walking suppresses your amygdala. Which means you are more open to processing and to allowing things to flow, and you are less in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn because you are moving through time and space. So many times when I've had to go through a breakup or something is not how I want it to be in my business (when I was back in my nine to five), and I was just really angry, bitter, and frustrated - walking was my medicine.
I just wanted to give you these things today because we're not always going to feel light. It's part of the human experience to navigate pain and sorrow and heartache and heartbreak and heaviness and all of that. But there are things that we can do.
There are things that can help us shift. Even if it's something so little like eating a square of chocolate or petting your dog, there are things that you can do today that will help you. I wanted to resource you because when we have more resources, we have more tools. We have more options and choices to act from.
I wanted to give those today who have whatever is meant to flow through it. If we can shift more quickly and it creates this depth within us, and it creates this ability to connect with others more deeply, because we can hold the pain because we can sit with it because our emotions are telling us how we're out of alignment.
It's the opportunity to shift back into alignment. If this supports you, I'd love to know, and I hope that you got something out of today. Thank you for being with me. If you loved this episode, would you do me a favor and leave me a quick rating? Or could you share this episode with someone you love?
This is super, super helpful for me on my mission to opening more hearts across the world and connecting people back to the truth of their souls. Thank you so much for being with me.